The Secure Way Is Really the Insecure Way

Neil StraussNeil4 Comments

What do you do? This is the first time I’ve started getting emails in my inbox not just asking for advice about women and writing, but about problems with work and anxieties about money. Maybe this is because of the pending release of Emergency in two weeks. Or maybe this is because every single person I know has been affected … Read More

Rules Of The Game: The Jinx Opener

jgatzThe Game12 Comments

Here’s a classic opener from seduction expert Evolve… Ever walk into a club and you have something to say but the music is so loud that no one can hear you ? Well I know exactly what that feels like! That’s why I created this opener – The Jinx Opener. Night clubs can be a pain in the ass sometimes. … Read More

The Meaning Of Life And The Secret To Happiness

Neil StraussNeil, The Game16 Comments

In the spirit of the times, I wanted to share with you all the most pretentiously titled post I’ve ever written. A few of you may have seen a draft of it on my website-in-progress. What I enjoy about this list is that it’s a way for me to speak directly to you. It’s something I’ve never gotten to do … Read More

Women, Beware!

Neil StraussNeil, The Game8 Comments

I wanted to share some thoughts on an experience I recently had. I received a call from two producers on the Dr. Phil show. They wanted me to come on and discuss The Game and the community with Dr. Phil. However, the more I talked to them, the more it seemed like a set-up. So I declined. Instead, they got … Read More

Life Lessons From Bozo the Clown

Neil StraussNeil30 Comments

Date: Fri, 4 Jul 2008 I’m writing because, today, I lost a good friend, Larry Harmon. Larry passed away this morning at the age of 83. Larry was best known for having portrayed Bozo the Clown for 50 years, while franchising the character across the globe. We had planned to publish a book on his life, The World According to … Read More

Why You Should Read Fiction

Neil StraussNeil8 Comments

I realized this when my agent told me he represented a book that had been nominated for the National Book Award. Despite its critical acclaim, it had sold, he said, only two thousand copies. Afterward, I was talking to my publicist at HarperCollins. And she was discussing how it was nearly impossible for a first-time novelist to get significant press. … Read More

Measure Yourself By Your Results

Neil StraussNeil, The Game5 Comments

A quick observation: I recently saw a heavily peacocked guy at a bar who thought he was a ladies man. Women laughed at his jokes and allowed him to have his hands all over them. However, what he didn’t realize was that these women were humoring him. They were being nice because they felt sorry for him, then they’d quickly … Read More

Going Kino on a Cop

Neil StraussNeil, The Game11 Comments

I’m often asked if the game is about more than just dating women. And I always explain that learning social skills has many other uses. Here, courtesy of a reader, is another one of them. He writes: *************** Dear Neil, To give a little back story first, I’m a 20 year old that works at a video store. My friends … Read More

Everything You Were Raised To Believe Is Wrong

Neil StraussNeil, The Game8 Comments

Ever see that reality show Bad Girls Club on the Oxygen Channel? Probably not. You’ve got better things to do. But a friend of mine is on it, and it’s been great to watch more evidence that the game – as counter-intuitive as it is, as much as women try to deny it works, as contrary as it is to … Read More

How To Make Your Own Fun

Neil StraussNeil2 Comments

On New Year’s Eve, I had a small epiphany. I went out with some friends, Courtney Love, and a guy named Noel Fielding from a British TV show called The Mighty Boosh, which is like a new-wave Teletubbies for adults. We went to some “glamorous” party on the Paramount Studios lot where the Killers were playing. And at about 11 … Read More