Everything You Were Raised To Believe Is Wrong

Neil StraussNeil, The Game8 Comments

Ever see that reality show Bad Girls Club on the Oxygen Channel? Probably not. You’ve got better things to do. But a friend of mine is on it, and it’s been great to watch more evidence that the game – as counter-intuitive as it is, as much as women try to deny it works, as contrary as it is to … Read More

How To Make Your Own Fun

Neil StraussNeil, New Years2 Comments

On New Year’s Eve, I had a small epiphany. I went out with some friends, Courtney Love, and a guy named Noel Fielding from a British TV show called The Mighty Boosh, which is like a new-wave Teletubbies for adults. We went to some “glamorous” party on the Paramount Studios lot where the Killers were playing. And at about 11 … Read More

Who Do You See In The Mirror?

Neil StraussNeil1 Comment

Even though I had no plans to do so when I wrote The Game, I will  always fight for the right of guys to learn how to improve themselves, to become more attractive, to become more interesting, to become  more popular, to become their best selves. In fact, I can’t think of anything cooler. So here’s today’s advice. It’s the … Read More

A Life Lesson from Borat

Neil StraussNeil, The Game6 Comments

I recently had dinner with Sacha Baron Cohen, the British comedian and provocateur known for his Ali G and Borat characters. It was the first interview he had done for his new Borat movie as himself, rather than in character. And I learned an important lesson that I want to share with you. Part of the genius of Sacha Baron … Read More

The Universe Is Not Cruel

Neil StraussNeil, The Game21 Comments

So you wanna get good at the Game? Let’s talk about motivation. I recently ran into a guy who had been studying seduction for years. He had read everything there was to read, and was familiar with all the leading PUAs and their theories. Yet he said he hadn’t kissed a girl in six months. I asked him how many … Read More

The Key to Easy Approaches

Neil StraussNeil14 Comments

The biggest fear most people have when it comes to dating is the approach. That’s why openers were developed: as training wheels to get over that initial reluctance. If you already know what you’re going to say, then you don’t have to worry about what to say. All you have to do is move your feet in the direction of … Read More

The Game Remains The Same

Neil StraussNeil3 Comments

I was talking to a writer who was working on a now-controversial story in this week’s Village Voice about The Game. Part of it had to do with a blogger named Dolly who had read the book and caught a pickup artist using the lines in a bar. Later that night, she made out with him nonetheless. So it made … Read More