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I feel like a giant weight has just been lifted off my chest.
Actually two weights.
I spent the last sixty days holed up finishing a two-book set.
It was rough going: I think I lost some people in my life I
really care about in the process. I need to switch to a more
social profession, like party promoter or department store
greeter.
One of the first things I wanted to do as soon as I emerged from
the deadline is wrute all of you. I have a bunch of new ideas to
share, so stay tuned over the next few posts.
Today’s update is all about…UPDATES.
If you’ve read The Game and have been keeping up with the various
projects and opportunities I’ve disclosed on this list only, then
there are some open loops I need to close.
Here they a few of them…
—MYSTERY—
Many who read The Game have written and asked how Mystery is doing.
The answer is…great.
Since The Game came out, Mystery broke up with Ania and left Las
Vegas. He now lives in - get this - Project Miami. I visited last
week, and walked in his door mid-afternoon to find him lying there
with two girls in his bed and a big smile on his face. He actually now
has his own reality show. It premieres on August 6th. I went to the
set to watch them film for a few days, and it looked very pro. I’ll
keep you updated.
—FINNEGANS WAKE—
Avid VIP List readers may recall that one of my resolutions for the
New Year was to read James Joyce’s incomprehensible monsterpiece,
Finnegans Wake. To help out with that, I started a book club composed
of members of this VIP list.
We are still going strong at page 500. I can’t say I recommend the book
(unless you’re looking for names for a band - in which case, turn to any
page).
Here’s one of the more nimble passages. Read it aloud to fully appreciate
it.
————————-
Question: “And how war yore maggies?” [Translation: And how do your
women war?]
“Answer: They war loving, they love laughing, they laugh weeping,
they weep smelling, they smell smiling, they smile hating, they
hate thinking, they think feeling, they feel tempting, they tempt
daring, they dare waiting, they wait taking, they take thanking,
they thank seeking, as born for lorn in lore of love to live and
wive by wile and rile by rule of ruse ‘reathed rose and hose hol’d
home, yeth cometh elope year, coach and four, Sweet
Peck-at-my-Heart picks one man more.”
—————————-
Uh, yeah.
So the next 2007 resolution on my list is a little less cerebral:
learning to KITESURF.
Any recommendations?
Kitesurfing club?
—STYLELIFE—-
I’m sure most of you know about Stylelife, because you get the
Weekly Wingman e-letter. But what you may not know is that I’m
having a little problem over at the Stylelife Academy.
Our students keep getting girlfriends and even getting married.
At this rate, there aren’t going to be any AFCs left to teach.
Here are the latest reports on their progress:
Report #1: FROM CAFE APPROACH TO ENGAGEMENT
http://www.stylelife.com/academy/SLAInvestigativeReport/
Report #2: 49-YEAR-OLD TEACHER GOES FROM NO SOCIAL LIFE TO PARTIES
AND MATRIMONY
http://www.stylelife.com/academy/SLAInvestigativeReport_2/
Report #3: PROUD COUPLE DISPLAY THE GAME AT THEIR WEDDING
http://www.stylelife.com/academy/SLAInvestigativeReport_3/
Yeah, the last one kind of cracks me up too.
You know what?
That’s a lot for one email. You got three special reports to read,
and some breaking news.
In the next email, I have a real important message to the women
on this list who’ve read The Game.
So stay tuned.
And keep reaching for…whatever you’re reaching for — the stars,
the women, the career, the peanut butter on the top shelf.
Talk Soon,
Neil Strauss
P.S. You knew I couldn’t just sign off without a P.S. or two.
P.P.S. Oh, one more update: A few of you wrote in asking for the
name of the heavy, heavy Japanese rock band I played on the radio
show with Dave Navarro. The band was Boris; the album was Pink.
Play it loud and scare the AMOGs.
Tags: Dirt, Neil Strauss, New York Times best-selling author, The Game
Hawk Said,
August 2, 2007 @ 5:26 pm
Style,
Let me quickly give my history. I am a small town boy form East Texas. I’ve grown up chasing or being chased by girls. I get a rush from the game.
The other day I was in Barnes & Nobles when I noticed a beautiful girl. I walked over, picked up a book, and struck up a conversation with her. Fifteen minutes later we had made a lunch date for the next day. After she walked away I looked at the book I was holding. The Game by Neil Strauss. I was intrigued and began to flip through it. I could not believe what I was reading! There’s a community of guys like me? Things are much different in East Texas than in Los Angeles.
People have so often told me that I should write a book. I have been toying with the idea for twenty years. I never even realized there were so many that had already done this. And workshops! Incredible!
Now, that I’m older I’ve had to make adjustments to my “game”. And have been considering writing on my experiences and how I’ve had to adjust. What’s made me successful and why there have actually been times in my life when I have been unsuccessful. (There is a reason and men need to know)
I am a teacher/coach and the women at school call me a “pro” and a “player”. They tell me every day that I need to write this book. Most people in these parts (including myself) did not know about a community.
What’s amazing is that these women know that I’m playing them, yet they can’t resist. They are afraid they will be the only one that I don’t go after. The other coaches can’t believe my success. Especially since most of them are much younger. I am now 44 years old.
I have narrowed my criteria down to 9 things that I man MUST do to attract women. When I’m finished reading The Game, I will start my book. Thanks to your inspiration. It will be filled with some of my most amazing stories and how men can begin working on and being aware of the 9 things it takes to be successful with women.
Hawk
lenny Said,
August 8, 2007 @ 9:29 am
im interested in a private training or if you have any type of a class training.
lenny
Media Concepts Said,
August 16, 2007 @ 3:10 pm
I ordered your book “The Game” about a year ago after reading about it somewhere. But when it arrived, I returned it, disappointed that it had a “faux leather” soft cover rather than what I had thought was a hard cover. Then I stumbled across the VH-1 program recently, and took it as a sign. I ordered the book again. I read it this week in the space of three or four nights, and was blown away. As a writer, I find that the best writers do two things that are also the scariest — they write the truth, and they don’t pull their punches. You obviously did both. Good job! And I kind of like that faux leather cover after all. It reminds me of the Gideon’s Bible that I find in the top drawer of the nightstand at hotels, when fishing for a phone book.
***V*** Said,
August 31, 2007 @ 11:33 pm
Hey Neil,
great to see you blogging. Keep us updated with the latest in your life.
All the best,
V
Gerard Said,
September 6, 2007 @ 11:25 am
listening to/playing Boris, especially Pink is pretty damn cool. their albums Feedbacker and Amplifier Worship are good as well.
I also quite enjoy The Pickup Artist. It’s become a kind of visual aid for The Game as well as an entertaining show by itself.
Astuzia Said,
November 17, 2007 @ 11:06 pm
Hi Neil my name is Astuzia from Argentina and I’ve red The Game. SInce I finished reading the book I love you!
Tom Said,
January 25, 2008 @ 6:31 pm
I thought I would share with you the amazing music that has done it for me:
Winter Chill 06.03 Hed Kandi HEDK036 disk 01probably the deepest and darkets collection of seduction background music ever created, you guys at Hed Kandi are out of this world.
Air, Moon Safari, from 1998, still so fresh and the ultimate in cool.
Gypsy Kings, anything. Passion unlimited!
Cheers
PS, loved the book Neil, thanks, it’s really helped me to get over neediness and to learn to have some fun.
Regards, Tom
Red Dragon Said,
February 12, 2008 @ 12:06 am
Hi Neil!
I’m the German guy who got the sales job (selling haircuts to women right on the streets) thanks to you. And like I wrote on the Stylelife forums I’m still intending to noserape you one day. Maybe all that rings a bell.
Well Neil, somehow I ended up on this website while checking out your last graphic novel and I must say that it seems to me that I get magically drawn towards you, without seriously intending to.
Some time ago one of your students from London (Charizma?) sent me a SMS. And he wrote me that you told him that Sydney is a good area for his experience level and now he intends to meet me here in Sydney. Now what is going on here? How did he even get my number and by that matter how did I end up from being a shy high school student living with my parents in Germany just half a year ago to making my way to the top here in Sydney and living my dream? Who knows?
You have been searching for real magic all over the world Neil? Here it is.
I hope one day my strange journey ends up in our paths crossing since I consider you a fun, intelligent and overall… very human pickup artist. Ultimately you are for sure the PUA most people of the community can relate to.
Since I’m here now there is a reasonable chance that you might read this comment so this seems to be the right place to show you a little respect for your hard work.
I must say that you did a great job with writing the game.
Before stumbling upon pickup I intended to be a writer, too. So while reading the game I recognized your great skills in making people like you. Not only by showing them how you went from AFC to PUA.
Your style of writing and talking shows me that you are respectful of other people’s views and that you are able to show them that you at least understand their perspective, that your mind always opens up to whatever they say, even if you don’t see it their way. In my opinion rapport boils down to showing the other person that you perceive reality in a similar way or at least in showing that you respect and understand their perspective on things, which is what you do with a great agility!
On the other hand I read your hilarious stories in “The Style Diaries” where you convey your incredibly fun “inner voice” to the reader, screening and perceiving the world in a very subjective, fun and playful way. Especially “One broken links destroys the chain” got me laughing so hard and I always thought “this could be me thinking those things and doing this incredibly stupid sh*t”. Thank you for changing my life Neil.
I hope we meet one day. I’m not sure if as student and teacher or as equals but I’m looking forward to that day.
Red Dragon
Luis Said,
February 13, 2008 @ 3:26 am
Hey style
Im new into this web site, only because i just found your book a few days ago, and the reason for that is becuase im not much of a reader, but let me tell you, this is some amazing stuff i have read and so far i have had a hard time putting it down. I guess my biggest concern now is to come up with a new name, a new life, and maybe a new future. How can i come about this?
Sasso Said,
February 19, 2008 @ 1:22 am
kitesurfing?
you should go to “bora”. boracay island in the philippines. excellent year round kitesurfing conditions. women as beautiful as the mesmerizing beach and sunset. paradise.
cheers!
The Gentle-Man Said,
April 6, 2008 @ 7:16 pm
Style,
“THE GAME” to me is a way to formally tranform oneself from boy to man, from shy to confident, from backround ambience to foreground standout Characters of this “GAME” called Life. You provide the tools needed to help others. I heard about this through hearsay from a fellow co-worker who noticed my shy tactics around women, but with guys was the outstanding jock with great charisma and optimism. A well-rounded person with good morals and family values, i would consider myself a decent person in todays society. But, wanted the courage to stand-up to a bully, or to someone who is trying to fight me for no reason. Always backed down with respect, but later wished i would have done things differently. This book is teaching more now 4months after reading it than while in the midst of a chapter.
In the end, i still have not closed and still am shy from time to time around women, but definately improving through every failure. Like a stepping stone to realize my progress thus far. One day, One day it will work out. Not because it should, and i waited patiently, but because i want it to workout.
Thanks for taking time to share your story so others can improve their lives!!
-THE GENTLE-MAN-
Michael Said,
April 15, 2008 @ 12:13 pm
Dude just got out of prison! Read your book The Game while i was there and cant believe how blind i was when it comes to picking up chicks! Now im working on the Stylelife Challenge ! Huge i opener ! keep up the good work !
Victor Said,
May 9, 2008 @ 7:52 pm
I’m also new to all of this. The Game was an interesting (and addictive) book to read… I got it last night and I just finished it. To my surprise most of the techniques described I also used since I was a teenager, and I did it conciously, like NLP, push and pull, etc.
I have always thought of knowledge as power, and of power as dangerous. The only way to manage power is with wisdom, self-awareness and most importantly of all: willpower.
You have gained my respect by showing all of these qualities and I hope that we could talk sometime, I’ve always been fascinated about how people think and behave. The human brain is a wonderfull machine, isn’t it?
There’s no way for me to know that you actually read this or just have someone read it for you and filter out what he/she thinks would catch your interest. However, from what I gathered from your writing, you seem like an intelligent, prudent, wise and most importantly peacefully happy man. I just can’t pass up the opportunity to talk to someone who could give me a well thought opinion, and perhaps we could both learn from each others views.
PS: The best kitesurfing spot I know is right here in my home town, “El Yaque” beach on Margarita Island/Venezuela.
They have international windsurf and kitesurf competitions very frecuently there.
It’s always summer and windy all year round, the water is calm, warm and shallow and the pepole who live here are always warm and welcoming. I love to explore but I always want to come back here.
I recommend the lower season (from mid april to june) less crowded and you can relax to your heart’s content.
Best wishes:
-Victor
Jorge Said,
May 24, 2008 @ 3:47 am
COME TO BRAZIL NEIL!
Lot´s of fans of yours would go to your seminary.
I´m from Rio, and I really wish to see you in action here!
Best Regards,
Jorge Penna
Carmen Said,
June 15, 2008 @ 7:56 pm
(im sure this is asked all the time, but…..) When are you going to write a book for women?
I wanna know how to pick up men!
Denver Said,
June 24, 2008 @ 1:41 pm
I Just finished your book, and it really spoke to me. My score is two, but they were both tens and I was in a serious relationship with both of them, I’m still young (only 19) but recently single, and I’m looking to open a new chapter in my social life. At fifteen years old I was shy, extremely insecure, and depressed, then I discovered DYD. It is my hope some day to meet David DeAngelo and apologize for stealing his eBook off limewire, since i was too young to buy it online, but I also want to thank him for the changes it wrought in my life. My story is too long to post here but I think you get the general idea. My world does not revolve around women, I am academically ambitious, I love to socialize, I have a collection of hobbies i love, and I really took to heart the idea that meeting women shouldn’t become your reason for living. However, I must admit, I have always gotten high off that thrill of approaching a woman I have never talked to, or the one right before a first kiss. Like rock climbing, river rafting, and snowboarding, the game is something I really enjoy, because I love women. Mine needs improvement though. David’s newsletters can only take you so far, and so can trial and error. I want to develop my own unique style (no pun intended), I have no desire to become another machine with the same recycled techniques or to lose myself in the game. This is why I turn to you for guidance, instead of subscribing to one school, you took the best from all of them. I don’t believe in doing things in a half assed manner, I want to learn from the best. I realize that I’m probably looking like just another AFC, but I’d really like to at least set up an email correspondence or something if you are willing. If not then I’ll go learn the hard way. In either case thank you for your time. Best of luck in all your endeavors.
Denver
Sapientia Said,
August 31, 2008 @ 12:52 am
Style,
skiles Said,
September 1, 2008 @ 5:13 pm
Recently divorced after 19 years of marriage. I already new it was going to be a different game, then in the past. When I stumbled onto your book ‘The Game’ I knew that it would be what I would need to re-enter the dating scene and have the advantage! I am eager to become a student and develop better skills, to capitalize each and every relationship I find myself in! Thanks again for you englightenment to dating!
Skiles
WaterBoy Said,
October 20, 2008 @ 9:29 pm
Hi Style,
I started reading The Game last night, and i stuggled to put it down, its great stuff.
To really put the theory into action. Should i read the book then hit a seminar or just get out into the clubs?
Ps. Will there be any upcoming seminars in Aus?
Cheers dude
Keep up the good stuff
Passport Said,
January 13, 2009 @ 10:53 am
Project Cairns is live baby….
Merchant Said,
February 5, 2009 @ 3:25 am
hi style… i read your book, ‘the game’, and guy loved every page. the book is improved my life.. and its the only book i read ever and now i would like to challenge my self in the style life challenge..
P.s im kinda new and would like if somebody can show me the ways and wills..
cya my guy
macgyver Said,
September 15, 2009 @ 9:42 pm
hey Style, (or is it Neil ?)
Read ” the Game ” like everyone else and have sorta started on the stylelife challenge in the follow up book. awesome stuff, mate, awesome.
Just wondering tho’, do you plan on doing any seminars here in New Zealand anytime in the future, and if not, can you recommend anyone here that does ?
I have sticking points aplenty that i’m aware of, but outside, NON-JUDGEMENTAL, appraisal would be helpful.
cheers
Pick Up Artist Said,
December 14, 2009 @ 11:17 am
Wow, just checked the date of this post, July 2007? Man things have come a long way. Who would have gussed Mystery has become so successful and a serious TV celeb. Hats off.