Neil Strauss

I’m writing with an important message for female readers. But
before I get to that, first a quick list of Australian tour
dates:

-SYDNEY-

WEDNESDAY, JUNE 24th  at 6:30 p.m.
The Art House Hotel
275 Pitt St
Sydney
(02) 9284 1200
Sponsored by Kinokuniya: (02) 9262 7996 or (02) 8251 4513

Note: You can get tickets either from Kinokuniya bookstore (at the
number above) or at the door. If you’ve been on this list a while,
you know that I hate charging any sort of fee for a booksigning,
reading, and Q&A session. I do them as a thank-you to those of you
on this list for reading the books and taking part in all the other
activities. That said, because the publisher had to pay for a bigger
venue, the admission is $15. It includes a drink, but I’ll tell you
what: If that feels like too much for you to pay, come up to me
during the signing afterward, give me your email address, and I’ll
send you a special something that will more than make up for the
entrance fee.

-MELBOURNE-

THURSDAY, JUNE 25th at 6:30 p.m.
Dymocks
234 Collins St
3000 Melbourne
(03) 9660 8500 (or email levents@dymocks.com.au)

NOTE: This one is free; however, space is limited and likely to
fill. So make sure you call the number above to reserve your spot
as soon as possible.

Unfortunately, there won’t be an event in Brisbane. The publisher
canceled this for some reason unbeknownst to me, but I’ll come
through next time I’m in Australia. Would love to make it to Perth
too. As well as take a New Zealand road trip next summer.

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NOW, THE VERY IMPORTANT MESSAGE TO FEMALE READERS OF THE GAME…
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Every now and then, a woman sends me an email or comes up to me at
a signing and says, “This guy tried to use the game on me the other
night, and I totally called him out on it.”

She usually seems very pleased with herself when she says this, and
wants some sort of compliment or pat on the head.

However, all I can think when this happens is: “You don’t get it!”

If you’ve read the book, then you understand that 90 percent of
guys using the game are focused on self-improvement and learning to
interact better with women - and the world.

When you shoot a guy down for using the game, especially if he’s
someone just beginning this journey to become socially comfortable,
all you’re doing is retarding his progress and development. And, in
some cases, possibly discouraging him from every trying again.

Instead, if you’ve read The Game, and a PUA-in-training comes up to
you using the material, instead of calling him out, HELP him out.
And do it constructively, not condescendingly. Especially if he is
doing something wrong or you see something you can give him advice
with. I’m sure everyone on this list would appreciate helpful,
constructive advice that will improve their success on a permanent
basis. If you’re feeling really generous, be a great wingwoman to
him that night. And if you’re feeling really, really generous…um,
never mind.

Okay?

Now, some of the guys reading this may wonder: how prevalent is the
material? Am I going to get caught if I use it?

If you’ve read the two-book sequel Rules of the Game, you know it
doesn’t matter. All you need is a contingency plan if you get
caught. I’ve met a number of guys who are now dating someone who
originally recognized their opener, and rather than getting scared
and running away, they continued the conversation. After all, the
only thing an opener is meant to do is to OPEN a conversation,
whatever the response may be.

However, as you probably know, I’m not one to just SAY something
without thoroughly researching it. So, as we speak, I’ve put
together “Style’s Street Team.” They are currently roaming the
malls, cafes, bars, and bistros of the country as we speak, testing
out the most common material (such as the Jealous Girlfriend
Opener) and keeping track of just how often it is recognized, as
well as how often it is effective for them. I’m compiling this as
part of the extra material in the paperback, single-volume reissue
of Rules of the Game, but I’ll of course give you a sneak peak of
the results here.

Hope to meet some of you in Australia. I’ve received so many emails
from you all, so glad to finally be speaking there…

Til Then,
Neil

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