Before we get started debunking a dating myth with our guest, Chris Rock, I need to quickly answer the most common question I’ve been getting in the mail: “No.” No one has found the cache in Emergency yet. It’s still there, in the exact spot pictured in the book. And I thought I’d made the clues TOO easy. Okay, moving on….. “The Most Important Thing In A Man is a Sense of Humor” Ever heard a woman say those words? Yeah, I heard them a lot too,...
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I think it is rather generous of one man to share with the others some tricks of trade. Really admire that! Women unfortunately are sooo much more selfish. They want all guys for themselves only!!! I reckon that is exactly why there is no pick-up societly for women. And I think girls need advise as well. At the end of the day we all want the same thing -its all about being able to communicate it in the ways that will be appealing/understandable to both parties. Would be reallly great if someone could have explored the pick up for ladies niche!!! It is jsut unfair that even ob ubiqutous internet you cannot fund much on how to actually pick-up men…
I am going to study more NLP… Then I can show people the way. When that happens my friends will stop being so anti-Positive… Lol.
Cheers friend,
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Neil Strauss, I think the last time I saw you was when you were still “under cover” working on your book. Congratulations on all your many successes since then! Send me an email if you’d like to get together and catch up.
I have to say I’m kind of disappointed in this post. The logic is really dodgy. Being the class clown generally equals acting like a buffoon. This doesn’t indicate a sense of humour, it indicates a desire for attention and a willingness to act silly to get it. A woman who laughs at that is laughing at you, not with you.
And while comedians are funny, it doesn’t take a sense of humour to tell jokes. There is definitely an art to saying the same joke over and over and nuancing it in such a way as to be funny, but that is an indication of acting talent, not sense of humour. And what I’ll find funny when in an arbitrary performer/audience scenario will be very different from what I’ll find funny over dinner, when my input will influence the interaction and how he responds to my input will affect the level of attraction.
Someone who has a sense of humour will be funny (and hopefully find me funny) in this most difficult of situations, yet you don’t address that at all in your research and then you come out and use two irrelevant scenarios to tell people not to listen to women who say sense of humour is important?
I liked your books (and haven’t yet found the cache, obviously) and have a certain respect for your self-awareness wrt the Game stuff, which is why I follow this feed. But this post is a disappointment.
I have no doubt anyone reading this will assume I have no sense of humour. But hey, women are not a homogenous group and I like men with wit, not clowns or tellers of scripted jokes.
I agree, a geeky clown isn’t attractive. A guy with genuine intelligence and humor is. However, case in point with Neill (and, probably Chris Rock), is that quite often the geeky clown is the first manifestation of the intelligent and humorous man. Consider it the pupal state. Maybe even the caterpillar. ;)
Actually i think it’s all about the comedian’s personality or, let’s call it his “Sex-Appeal”: think about Joe Regan (or whatever this host of Fear Factor is called) i bet he has shit loads of groupies, and not the business type ones.
Chris Rock is a great comedian, and to be honest he is my favorite one and he is a really nice guy, i mean, i watched all his HBO specials and he is a really funny-nice-guy, but he doesn’t have the sex-appeal like Joe Regan or Chris Tucker have.
your just-got-a-cold-shock-to-my-brain-from-eating-too-much-icecream,
Vova
look I am not a smart man but I would like to talk to you about your book. I need help like you did in the book. I love the opisit sex but the girls I like dont like me and the girls I dont like want to have me. I know that I am not ugly by no means but Don Johnson I am not. Plz help me. Just let me know. I dont know what to do now that I am by my self. My ex wife left me for a 21 y old boy. we were together for 11 y and now it is over. Thamks
I’ve found using comedy as a way to break the ice works in most situations. As a naturally funny person, I feel comfortable doing this. I did have to calibrate when to dial it back as not to become a clown. Great post!
I learned something from the last two questions. Being funny is gold, but if you don’t add mystery you’re just a clown.
I do not entirely agree. I think when women say they are looking for “a guy with a sense of humor” they don’t mean the person who can make them laugh the most. They mean someone who can laugh with them, joke with them, ect. The key point there is “WITH.” Yes comedians and class clowns are fun to be around, but being able to make someone laugh does not imply compatibility. Sharing a sense of humor does. So when women say they are looking for a guy with a “good sense of humor” they mean: “the same sense of humor as myself so we may enjoy the same things and have fun and laugh together.”
You often have to look for implicit clauses in women’s discourse. :)
Excellent point.
i agree.. :)
No wonder the girls at hight school did not want me but they where attracted.I was just a clown too much damn!
In medieval times, were women more attracted to the funny jester or to the serious ……king?
There you have it!
That is an example to convey this principle
You apparently never saw Woody Allen’s “Everything You Wanted to Know About Sex…”, did you?
Sure, she married the king…but she schtupped the jester. :D
very true, a fundamental principle
Don’t listen to what people say, listen to what they do!
Watch their hands, not their mouths 1
See what women react to, do not pay attention to what they say
great article. thanks neil!
This has been an eye opener. Thank you Neil, & thanks to Chris Rock! I can’t help having a sense of humor, but I will work on mystique.