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One of the things I want to do in the Inner Circle is discuss slightly more advanced concepts and go more in-depth than what I’d do for a general audience.
So let’s discuss . . .
This is the very essence of everything from attraction to survival.
A frame is the context or belief through which a person, situation, or a conversation is perceived.
If you look at the big picture of the techniques in The Game, frame control is the confidence of being the master of your own reality, and treating everyone else as a lucky guest in it. If you can embody that in a charming, humorous, and congruent way, the rest of the attraction process is easy.
As a small-chunk example of reframing, if someone bumps into you accidentally and apologizes and you ask them, “Did you just grab my butt on purpose,” you are now in control of the frame. And the frame can then be one of flirtation or harassment, depending on what outcome you want.
As an Emergency example, I think of the principle I learned at Tracker School: “A fleeing animal is a vulnerable animal.” The final video in the playlist below will show you what happens when the fleeing animal stops running, turns around, and decides to “change the frame.” Even in the animal kingdom, frame control ensures survival.
So, because it’s always better to show rather than tell, I’ve compiled some of my favorite video examples of frame control in real-life situations, and created an introduction and a playlist for you all.
In the videos, we’re going to see many different styles and examples of people walking into situations where they are supposed to be passive and reactive (usually being interviewed on someone else’s turf) and then taking control of the frame. The Howard Stern clip where he’s telling David Letterman and Paul Shaffer how to do their jobs and the Jon Stewart interview where he roasts the Crossfire hosts on their own show are particularly inspiring examples, while Russell Brand continually reframes an interviewer’s questions into a seduction.
Frame control is a powerful art, and it is essential when meeting women that you are in control of the frame—so that she is seeking your approval, rather than the other way around. Men with a weak frame, or who try to fit into her frame, are the ones who come off as needy and supplicating. Note that this doesn’t mean you have to be a loud and overbearing alpha male, which is why I’ve included examples from Bob Dylan and Norm MacDonald, who accomplish the same goal but with very few words.
Enjoy. And send me any great examples of frame control you’ve found at [email protected], and I’ll add my favorites to the Playlist.
Always Be Reframing,
Jon Stewart takes over Crossfire.
Howard Stern owns David Letterman on his own show.
Method Man controls the frame.
Russell Brand games a reporter.
Stephen Colbert runs rings around O’Reilly.
Man turns the tables on bouncers.
Bob Dylan proves that power sometimes comes with slowness and silence.
Norm McDonald being Norm McDonald.
Fritz Perls mindf—s a patient.
Physicist one-ups spiritual leaders.
Cat takes on a Gator
Tom Cruise famously makes a prankster feel foolish.
Robbie Williams takes control and a kiss.