I want to share with you one of the biggest lessons I learned in the last month. It’s something I’ve been trying to figure out since I first started teaching workshops, and noticing that some people excelled while others got nowhere — even though they were both putting in the same amount of work. There was a piece missing that no one was teaching. Here’s how I found it: A PUA I’d met on my last book tour did a massive favor for me. He’s a sweet, good-hearted...
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From what you’ve written, it seems like it’s all about coming across as being real, and genuine.
Who really wants to be around someone that’s try trying to suck up to them?
The problem is that so many people think of hot girls as some sort of treasure, but they’re just people. Negs to me just seem like a light reminder to a girl that they’re a person like the rest of us.
I love the philosophy of bettering others lives. I remember I was in town a while ago and saw a girl walking alone. Approach Anxiety got the better of me; it was a perfect situation to be a gentleman and offer her some company. She ended up getting harassed by a bum and I ended up running up and telling him to f*ck off.
Moral of the story is that it’s not sleazy to talk to girls. When you could make a positive difference in someone’s life go for it. It might just make you both better off ;)
Sound words. Too many guys put attractive women on pedestals and treat them accordingly – I know I did for a long time! As you say, once you start treating them like normal people and get them to qualify themselves to you, the success is sure to follow! It also makes you more confident, as you see yourself as an equal to them, not someone needing to suck up to them all the time. Now if only I could heed my own advice… :P
i totally agree agree tho no one wants to around some one that’s need emotional satisfaction, it should be given to others. if that makes any scence
i think you should teach some workshops on how to play the wii lol. first off its a good ice break when you actually have a girl come over after a first date or after a club/bar. it makes for a good physical activity and competitiveness. ive always had good luck with the wii, well wii sports works the best.
Genuine is the key word here…
Girls pick up on this, if your not Genuine you need to find something you burn for, if you are a computer geek you can talk about it, just use smooth words.
I’m kinda a doctor you can say, only I don’t work on people I work on making computers feeling better so you can update your facebook profile with out needing to use 20 min getting onto internet, just a example…
Welcome to the marvelous world of “Nash Equilibrium”.
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I’ve learned this from my career in sales. The more confident, genuine, and sincere you are, the more opportunities gravitate towards you. Great writing, as usual, Neil.
Be the ball.
On what u said is recognized to my experience and never thought on what it would intail. Now learned a lesson.
its worked for me soooo many times. when its a hot babe but i flip on her and tell her she “kinda cute, but nt really” (diss her with a neg mixed with a compliment) – twist her mind a lil which makes her notice me. u stand out this way
~sj
Makes a lot of sense.
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This is so fantastic that you make pickup art, as a process to become a better person in general! You’re so cool!!! :)