This is the latest article from Neil on relationships…. It’s healthy to voice one’s thoughts and feelings, especially after going through these types of experiences. However, my end goal is always to coach people through letting go of toxic emotional attachments, understanding the deeper issues, healing, and moving forward. Because if you can’t change a person or situation, you have … Read More
Strength Of Communication
This is an important reminder that has stuck with me over the years in my writing… I realized I needed to stop taking the damn words so seriously, and I finished my first novel–A dream I set for myself when I was just a little boy. I felt like I was learning from someone that understood why the writing matters. … Read More
Sticky Emotional Reaction…
Here’s the next article for Neil on holidays and relationships… Despite your best intentions in clearing the slate… And all your preparation for staying mindful with your family over the holidays… Once you’re seated at the table, or socializing in the living room, you may still catch yourself regressing into the wounded child or adapted adolescent. A sticky emotional reaction … Read More
Running patterns
This is the latest article from Neil on relationships When reconnecting with family for the holidays… Few of us enter with a blank slate, to experience others as they truly are… Over decades, we’ve built up assumptions about them, and how the day or night will go. In effect, instead of relating to each other… We are relating to … Read More
The Self Sabotage Cycle
Here’s the latest article from Neil on dealing with self sabotage A student of mine recently confessed to being stuck in a cycle of self-sabotage. They had exciting, clearly defined goals for the month. But after taking a few small steps, they’d get distracted and prevent themselves from going any further… Which is a place I think we’ve all been.Whenever someone … Read More
Writer’s block doesn’t exist…
I want to share a takeaway from one of the experiential exercises I designed… Which delivers an important, mind-altering lesson. Not only does it prove writer’s block doesn’t exist… It pulls you into the empty space where great creativity happens. Let me explain… One of the myths in creative work is that you need to begin with some extraordinary idea, or experience… And … Read More
Handle Your Hot Buttons
I wanted to add a thought expanding on a previous topic I discussed rest and stress… Because managing that balance has an impact far more than it may seem. In addition to impacting your health and immunity, stress lowers your emotional and psychological capacity. Your capacity to perform well, to think clearly, and to handle pressure, conflict, and your hot buttons. When … Read More
Honor Confidentiality
This is the latest article from Neil… To continue supporting as many as I can in finishing your books, and other projects, I want to share a few extra lessons I’ve learned recently before we continue our regularly scheduled programming here. This tip has applications far beyond writing, so read on for the bigger takeaway. I took note of … Read More
Throwing An Emotional Boomerang
This is the latest article from Neil… In one of my weekly coaching groups…A member recently confessed to being stuck in a cycle of self-sabotage. They had exciting, clearly defined goals for the month. But after taking a few small steps, they’d get distracted and prevent themselves from going any further… Which is a place I think we’ve all been. Whenever … Read More
Surrender To Art
Here is the latest article from Neil… I want to talk briefly about a sticking point I’m noticing. One thing I’m noticing, though, is that there is a tendency, drilled into us since childhood, to always think and plan ahead. This may not be true for writing and art. Think of art more as meditation. the goal is to surrender to the moment, … Read More