You Are Too Proud to Beg
If you’ve ever been approached by a beggar, chances are that you didn’t take him home with you.
Yet when most men approach women, they come on like a beggar.
In order to master the walk-up – the part of the pickup that strikes terror in the hearts of most of us — before you even open your mouth, there are a few things you need to remember in order to avoid rejection.
Within the first few seconds of seeing you, a woman has passes judgment on you. And it is a very simple judgment: yes or no. In order to get a yes, there are three key points to remember that separate you from a beggar.
The first is to smile when you approach. Even if it a grin doesn’t come naturally, force it. The reason: it predisposes the woman you’re about to engage to respond positively. A strange man approaching can be a scary thing. When a scowling man walks up to a car and asks for change, chances are that a driver is not going to roll down the window.
The next key point is to come in with equal or slightly higher energy level than the woman or group you’re about to talk to. Most people are out at night to have fun. So if you’re someone who can add to their fun, you’ll be welcomed into the group. However, if you’re bringing them down or making them strain to listen to or understand you, it doesn’t matter what you say – they’re going to try to get rid of you as soon as possible.
Finally, when you open your mouth, don’t begin by saying “I’m sorry,” “excuse me,” or “pardon me but…” Sure, your family raised you to be polite, but starting a conversation this way makes you sound like you’re about to ask for change.
Where men are generally attracted to beauty, women are generally attracted to status. And a man of high status never apologizes for his presence
Next Week: The Time Constraint