Cold reading is a series of techniques that helps you to discover details about a person so that you can convince him or her that you know more about them than you actually do.
Cold reading can be as simple as making something up about someone that they could perceive as true. For example:
• “You look around a lot. Apparently, that means you’re someone who wants to feel safe.”
• “The way you hold your glass is interesting. Supposedly, it means you’re really confident.
• “They say that women with bangs like that are known for having a nasty dark side.”
These simple cold reads are great for generating conversations about body language, psychology, and spirituality. However, a complex cold read can really change the dynamics of a relationship.
Check out this video clip of a particularly complex cold read that involves NLP, and blows a few models’ minds:
Here are a few basic rules that will help you learn how to make your cold reads more believable and complex. These tips will help boost your cold reading skills regardless of the cold reading routine you’re using – like The Cube, Strawberry Fields, astrology, tarot, or rune stones.
Always think about the words you use. They should sound mystical and deep. They should also make the person you’re reading feel like everything is specifically about them. Here are a few common sound bites to think about when cold reading:
- Your personal journey…
- The way you experience…
- The feeling you get…
- Breaking the common pattern…
- Two paths to choose…
- You have this positive (or negative) energy…
Act like everything you say is true.
Don’t doubt what you say.
Do say everything like you’re the authority.
Imply specificity by comparing this person’s traits to everyone else’s.
Say, “Though most people don’t think before they act, you almost spend too much time thinking before acting.”
Most emotions and actions have a dual nature. Combine opposite qualities into the same sentence for a powerful cold read.
Say, “I’m certain that at times you can be lazy or lethargic, while at other times, when you are doing something you’re interested in, you work like a maniac.”
People agree with positive statements about themselves and disagree with negative statements about themselves. Merge the two principles.
Say, “Some people think you lack confidence, when you’re really a confident person. Generally, they confuse the fact that you like to watch and learn before you speak.”
Reading Hearts: A Basic Cold Read
To set up this cold read, simply grab a napkin, a pen, and a girl. Ask her to draw a heart on a piece of paper. Be sure to “root” the cold read. In other words, let them know why you know this game, for example:
“I want to try out this little psychology test my friend taught me.”
Now simply cold read her based on the heart she drew. Pay attention to the size, shape, and line structure.
The Basic Shapes: UNEVEN, PERFECT and BROKEN
UNEVEN: One side is larger than the other
Meaning: Indicates some sort of imbalance in her life. You can easily associate it with right- and left-brain behavior, the larger side being more dominant. (Left: Logic, Right: Creativity)
PERFECT: Both sides are even, the heart is full and round
Meaning: Indicates a perfectionist. Talk about how she has a need for control over situations concerning her love life and professional life.
BROKEN or CROSSED: Lines don’t meet in the dip on the heart, or cross at the dip in the heart.
Meaning: Indicates someone who thinks and acts quickly. Talk about how she is impulsive in relationships and outside of them.