How To Become A Master Of Cold Reading

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Cold reading is a series of techniques that helps you to discover details about a person so that you can convince him or her that you know more about them than you actually do.
Cold reading can be as simple as making something up about someone that they could perceive as true. For example:

• “You look around a lot. Apparently, that means you’re someone who wants to feel safe.”

• “The way you hold your glass is interesting. Supposedly, it means you’re really confident.

• “They say that women with bangs like that are known for having a nasty dark side.”

These simple cold reads are great for generating conversations about body language, psychology, and spirituality. However, a complex cold read can really change the dynamics of a relationship.

Check out this video clip of a particularly complex cold read that involves NLP, and blows a few models’ minds:

Here are a few basic rules that will help you learn how to make your cold reads more believable and complex. These tips will help boost your cold reading skills regardless of the cold reading routine you’re using – like The Cube, Strawberry Fields, astrology, tarot, or rune stones.

Sound Bites

Always think about the words you use. They should sound mystical and deep. They should also make the person you’re reading feel like everything is specifically about them. Here are a few common sound bites to think about when cold reading:

  • Your personal journey…
  • The way you experience…
  • The feeling you get…
  • Breaking the common pattern…
  • Two paths to choose…
  • You have this positive (or negative) energy…

Confidence

Act like everything you say is true.

Don’t doubt what you say.

Do say everything like you’re the authority.

False Specification

Imply specificity by comparing this person’s traits to everyone else’s.

Say, “Though most people don’t think before they act, you almost spend too much time thinking before acting.”

Opposites

Most emotions and actions have a dual nature. Combine opposite qualities into the same sentence for a powerful cold read.

Say, “I’m certain that at times you can be lazy or lethargic, while at other times, when you are doing something you’re interested in, you work like a maniac.”

Approval

People agree with positive statements about themselves and disagree with negative statements about themselves. Merge the two principles.

Say, “Some people think you lack confidence, when you’re really a confident person. Generally, they confuse the fact that you like to watch and learn before you speak.”

Reading Hearts: A Basic Cold Read

To set up this cold read, simply grab a napkin, a pen, and a girl. Ask her to draw a heart on a piece of paper. Be sure to “root” the cold read. In other words, let them know why you know this game, for example:

“I want to try out this little psychology test my friend taught me.”

Now simply cold read her based on the heart she drew. Pay attention to the size, shape, and line structure.

The Basic Shapes: UNEVEN, PERFECT and BROKEN

UNEVEN: One side is larger than the other

Meaning: Indicates some sort of imbalance in her life. You can easily associate it with right- and left-brain behavior, the larger side being more dominant. (Left: Logic, Right: Creativity)

 

PERFECT: Both sides are even, the heart is full and round

Meaning: Indicates a perfectionist. Talk about how she has a need for control over situations concerning her love life and professional life.

 

BROKEN or CROSSED: Lines don’t meet in the dip on the heart, or cross at the dip in the heart.

Meaning: Indicates someone who thinks and acts quickly. Talk about how she is impulsive in relationships and outside of them.

 

20 Comments on “How To Become A Master Of Cold Reading”

  1. I find this a very interesting way to engage with someone.
    This should be fun to practice so thankyou.

  2. Interesting! Definitely gonna try the ‘Heart Read’ out, cool and simple. In the future I’d like to learn more cold reading, I think it’s powerful stuff.
    Whenever using ‘The Cube’ I get great results, and learn alot about the girl. The sound bytes is exactly something that works. When you get into this kinda ‘spiritual mode’ and use these phrases it’s like it’s almost impossible for the girl to disagree, and she’s always searching for the things to be true.

    Thanks for another great post George, keep ’em coming 🙂

    1. To paraphrase John Wayne when talking about – Carry Grant, I think it was – ” What a waste, If I had his ‘abilites’, they’re be no stopping me” 🙂

    1. Go on amazon on possibly e-bay and get hold of Derrens book ‘tricks of the mind’.
      Also watch footage of him in action. As much of what he is saying counts it’s how he says it, RSVP Rythm Speed Volume Pitch. He constantly changes them to keep the listener on there toes.
      His body language and body position plays a big part. Then watch Neil and you’ll see the similarities. If you can find it there is footage of Neil on a French program were the presenter rattles on in French to the group. It’s the closest I’ve ever seen Neils body language show he’s uncomfortable.

  3. Cool stuff. Will start using it ASAP.
    Thanks Mr.ROCKwell, kudos.

    UNRELATED PS:

    Love reading stupid comments on youtube. HAHAHAHAH
    Excerpts:

    “Your titties wiggle when? you smile …”
    “My virginity at age 40 testifies to the truthfulness of that statement.”
    “stupid bitches?”
    “I’m a 10, this shit? dont work for me”

    ahahahah

  4. I recently tried using the Cube after I watched Style’s video on it. I was a wallflower for most of the party, and as soon as I tried the Cube on the first girl, the reactions were exactly as Style described them. The first girl I used the Cube on even wanted to kiss me by the end of the night. More relative to this though, I saw her leaning in and nodding her head when I was describing something she believed about herself. I was most impressed with how easy and effective it was to play off her nodding head. I’m so curious what other non-verbal signals exist to read a person?

    1. I suggest series “Lie To Me”. (not the Korean one) Based on real life body language patterns. I’ve taken many & used them together with the “Lying Game” I got from Style.

    1. Yes he sure is and I cried a little when I found that out 🙁

      On a side note a while ago I was at an interview and I was asked that famous ‘give us one interesting fact about yourself’ question, my answer was ‘I was at a Derren Brown show and I took part in one of his stage tricks.’ (FYI it was ‘something wicked this way comes’which was a totally awesome show, anyone seen it live?)

      I wasn’t hypnotised or anything but I can confidently claim I spoke to him for a few minutes and he dicovered I have 2 cats, eat Jelly Beans more than I should and much to the jealousy of the people I was with, he said my name…twice. Booyah!

      Love and success to you all x

  5. Loving it, and am definately going to be trying this particular one out. Have already seen some progress with another cold reading technique,though I did get called out once for “spouting psychobabble”.

  6. I am presently reading Terry Weston “Psychic Cold Reading”. Very appealing to me, since it explains the basics in an easy to read, very understandable fashion. This is the book that opened the subject of cold reading to me. I realize now that astrology, Tarot cards, the glass ball etc are just props for the same method of telling a person truisms and modifying them a little bit based on age, gender, maybe quickly guessed personality type etc. It seems important to mention that this is all possible, because we humans are very very similar, more similar than we would like to acknowledge in this age of individualism.

  7. My favourite trick is to switch it around and teach a girl to read MY palm. That way them I get them to kino ME (“Hey, that tickles”) and by telling them how to read my palm, I get the girl to pick me up, too! Great fun for all, try it out.

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