How To “Not Give A Shit” Effectively

“You just have to stop giving a shit.” Many students and teachers in the seduction community consider the “I don’t give a shit” mentality to be an effective frame for achieving socially-related goals. The idea is, if you don’t care what people think, then you can just go around saying anything to anyone without being hurt by rejection. I do believe that the idea of acting uninterested or “not giving a shit” has value, however that value lies in “not giving a shit” as a technique rather than a mentality. A student of the game should care what people think. One of the best ways to get good is to pay enough attention to people that you’re able to put yourself in their shoes. Trying not to care about what someone says or thinks will prevent you from learning this skill. It’s sometimes important to act uninterested, but to actually be uninterested is not helpful. Appear uninterested, don’t be uninterested The advice to “just stop...

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  1. sweetboots says:

    Well said, George. I can speak from experience that a guy who “doesn’t give a shit” can be incredibly off-putting.

    While there is definitely something appealing about someone who takes social risks, guys seem to think that “not giving a shit” means that they shouldn’t pay any attention to their audience’s reactions or feelings. Taking it too far (or as a mantra) makes PUAs careless and hamfisted in their interactions with people. I consider it a kind of bull-in-a-china-shop approach. Not only are they likely to alienate their target, but they are engaging in a behavior that reinforces negative traits. Who wants to invest their time in a conversation with someone who doesn’t care about anything? Honestly, they just aren’t that interesting to talk to and often just seem like assholes.

    Checking your watch to force someone to re-engage in a conversation is a lot different than deafening yourself to social cues or intentionally acting like a prick. When a guy walks up to me with that “I don’t give a shit about anything” attitude, it reads like a blinking neon light: I am insecure. I’m sure if I thought about it longer, I could think of something less attractive to a woman, but I’m hungry and can’t at the moment.

  2. Jonnycruz says:

    Having strong eye contact while someone is talking to you can be super powerful, as it will seem like you are seriously interested in what they have to say.. Using this with some of the things George said (check your watch, phone, or gaze somewhere else) will create that push pull you need to keep her on her toes..

    Try this or don’t…

    I don’t give a shit

  3. martinski says:

    Is this an exercise in reframing?

    Giving more of “a shit” of what I think about myself and actions, as opposed to caring less of what others think of me?

  4. Emilio says:

    “Actually having other things on your mind is a very natural way to pay less attention and appear like you don’t give a shit.”


  5. Excessive says:

    Definitely agree. This is exactly how you get the dynamics to turn in your favor. If I’m really sucked in I’ll pay attention but as soon as I can tell things are getting a bit out of my control I pull out the cell phone and get ready for subject switching. BE CAREFUL THOUGH, you don’t want to do it too much or too obviously.

  6. Chased says:

    I like to use the shrug to display this. its pretty good when throwing out a controversial line, or giving someone some well deserved and good hearted “shit”.


    Also good when dancing, dance like you’re having fun and don’t give a shit whether you look dumb or not. if it’s obvious you’re enjoying yourself, people will join you.


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