The State Of The Game Today

Neil StraussNeil, The Game

At every seminar, I always take the guys who are still virgins to lunch so they can get some extra one-on-one help.

In the past, I used to tell them during lunch how to dress and present themselves better, how to be more comfortable in their own skin, and how to get past their sticking points.

But then I stopped doing that during our lunches.

Because I realized that, for the guys who were still involuntary virgins and 27 or older, it had nothing to do with those things.

They were symptoms of something larger going on.

The reason for their inexperience had to do with their childhood–and either a traumatic experience or an un-nuturing way in which they were raised. In fact, there were a few specific kinds of “inappropriate” parenting that tended to lead to this.

And the cure was deep inner healing.

This shift is just one way in which The Game has changed since it was written.

The Game is no longer just about behavior and how to change your behavior.

The Game is also about beliefs and how to change your beliefs.

Especially the negative, limiting, and patently untrue beliefs many people have about themselves deep down.

This may be is a lot more difficult to do than the former, but in the end will transform not just a student’s dating life but every element of it.

And I’m writing today because I think many aren’t aware of how The Game has changed and how much deeper we’ve understood and unpacked the subjects of attraction, confidence, social behavior,
and self-improvement.

I just wrapped up a two-day master class on The Game. And afterward, I was watching a video we made for internal use and thought it might be cool to let you all take a look.

There’s a journalist named Nick who once interviewed me and offered afterward to volunteer some time helping out. And he’s clipped together some excerpts to show you all.

So here is an introduction to some of the basic principles I’m teaching now, none of which you’ll find in The Game. This section of the seminar addresses the second-most frequent question I’m emailed about: approach anxiety.

But it really applies to all social and life anxiety.