How To Unlock The Adventurer In You


We’ve all seen him. THAT guy. The one all men want to be and all women want to be with. He’s handsome, he’s rich, and he’s adventurous! And yes, this man can be YOU!

In order to make this happen, you do not have to be a dashingly handsome, super wealthy, risk-taking corporate magnate. Nor do you have to attempt to cross the globe in a high-tech hot air balloon with amazing stories of near-death plummets toward Earth. You need not own your own island with an open-air outdoor toilet and a panoramic ocean view. You also do not have to be knighted by the Queen. I am, of course, speaking of Sir Richard Branson, one of my personal adventurous heroes. He coined the term “Maverick Entrepreneur.” I coined the term “Maverick Adventurer.”

And just what is a Maverick Adventurer?

Adventure is an attitude. Adventure is a lifestyle. Adventure is a trait of a self-confident MAN. Many of you will immediately cut this concept short, owing to who you are at this moment and doubting that you can do anything adventurous. You don’t have the time, money, or physical prowess to go hang-gliding, jet over to Rio for Carnival, or throw elaborate parties at your palatial mansion. I have been there, my friend. I can say personally that I have done none of these things…yet! Okay, well, I did have a fairly large house and threw some awesome parties, but that was then…

Maybe you are not handsome, per se. So what?!? At this moment, you may protest, “But I’m not rich.” Big deal! These things can all come together with a little work, but the one thing that you can be, right here and right now, is ADVENTUROUS!

No matter who you are, what you look like, or where you find yourself in the financial world, you can be adventurous. You have to make it an internal thing. It has to become a part of who you are, not what you do. Every day can and should be full of new experiences. Dating is most definitely an adventure. You do it long enough and believe me, you will have stories. And then you can share those stories. If you do awesome things, you will have awesome tales to tell. These tales make you interesting, and being interesting is why we love THAT guy!

So, how do you adopt this bravado and derring-do? Start out small, then build up to the bigger things. Ask yourself, in your immediate surroundings, what can you do that is outside of your routine? Watch a “how-to” video on something you’ve always wanted to learn? Paint a wall something flashy? Attempt a cooking technique you’ve been thinking about? Any and all of these are simple, cheap, and can get you out of your comfort zone, which is step one to adventure. For example, every time I go to the grocery store, I try to buy one new item that I have never tried before. It may taste awful or lead me to a brand new culinary find; I never know, but that’s how you discover.

To be THAT guy you must have stories and pictures to discuss and share. That’s easy. There are so many amazing things available that are cheap and/or free within 10 miles of you that, I am willing to bet, you have no idea exist. Start investigating! There are festivals, perfect sunset views, dollar taco nights, meetups, and other goings on that are simply a mouse click away. Some of the best date ideas are absolutely free, by the way: farmer’s markets, hikes, free museum days, etc. The adventure is out there. What’s your excuse for not joining in? The ball is in your court. Try something new, right now! We have never been in a better time for getting out there and collecting experiences.

Adventure is on sale all the time!

With the proliferation of sites like Groupon, Dealfind, LivingSocial, etc., you have a virtually unlimited supply of amazing things to do. Through these deals alone, I have driven 170 miles-per-hour in a NASCAR race car, trained with a World Champion boxer, eaten at amazing restaurants, wrote and recorded my own audiobooks, and signed up for paintball, photography, and guitar lessons—all at a fraction of what it would normally cost. Get out of your comfort zone and expand your horizons. And do it right frickin’ now! You want to be a better man, date beautiful women, and do amazing things? Then you must become the MAN who does those things. There is absolutely nothing stopping you.

Another great thing about living in these times is that you have control over how you are presented to the world. You are now your biggest and best PR person. Take pics of your adventures and immediately post them to the world. Write all about your stories on your free blog site, get followers on Twitter and Facebook. Become an icon for no reason other than that you are adventurous! People will want to be you and women will want to be with you. But you have to get up off your ass and go earn it!

Being poor, unattractive, or injured is not an excuse. I was fat, had my spine fused, and went bankrupt, so I’ve been there. And I couldn’t afford a damn T-shirt. Now I travel the world speaking in front of thousands, have an amazing lady in my life, and every day is a new adventure. You can find a way! If you think you can’t be adventurous because of your misgivings, tell it to Nick Vujicic. Born with no arms and no legs, yet he still lives an amazing and adventurous life! If he can do it, what is your excuse? You simply have none. This is something that is completely in your control. Now go be amazing.

Spike Spencer, The Dating Sage