I’d like to begin with a relevant thought, which is based on this tweet I posted recently: Our inner voice tends to speak to us like our parents did. For most of us, this retraumatizes rather than supports “If you want to be happier, make sure your inner voice speaks to you like the parents you needed, not necessarily the … Read More
Gaining Self-Awareness
This is the latest article from Neil on relationships…. It’s healthy to voice one’s thoughts and feelings, especially after going through these types of experiences. However, my end goal is always to coach people through letting go of toxic emotional attachments, understanding the deeper issues, healing, and moving forward. Because if you can’t change a person or situation, you have … Read More
Sticky Emotional Reaction…
Here’s the next article for Neil on holidays and relationships… Despite your best intentions in clearing the slate… And all your preparation for staying mindful with your family over the holidays… Once you’re seated at the table, or socializing in the living room, you may still catch yourself regressing into the wounded child or adapted adolescent. A sticky emotional reaction … Read More
Running patterns
This is the latest article from Neil on relationships When reconnecting with family for the holidays… Few of us enter with a blank slate, to experience others as they truly are… Over decades, we’ve built up assumptions about them, and how the day or night will go. In effect, instead of relating to each other… We are relating to … Read More
Map out your patterns
This is the next article from Neil on breaking patterns and relationships. Patterns are everywhere… In Nature, in your behavior, as well as in your relationships with family. And if you tend to get stressed out or reactive around certain family members, you can be sure there’s a pattern at play. After all, where there’s reactivity, there’s a wound. To … Read More
We can literally move mountains
This is the latest article from Neil When you look around… You can see a myth playing out in modern society… That you’re supposed to feel good all the time. You should be comfortable, happy, pain-free, and always in control. So, any experience different from that is often seen as an unwanted glitch… Something we should get rid of, … Read More
The Front Matter
Now on to our second and bonus lesson.. I realized I needed to stop taking the damn words so seriously, and I finished my first novel–A dream I set for myself when I was just a little boy. I felt like I was learning from someone that understood why the writing matters. Someone who appreciates the art. And I learned … Read More
Top Ten Books: Reading List 2017 (Fiction & Literature)
In what’s becoming an annual tradition here, below is my top ten books reading list for 2017. It will be updated over the course of the year to reflect the fiction and literature books I’ve read over the course of the year. As I read each book, I will list it below, in order of preference from most to least favorite, … Read More
The Most Important Person of Our Generation
This week is the 50th anniversary of Rolling Stone‘s first issue. And I’m excited to announce that I was selected to write the cover story. Most importantly, it’s about an individual who, I believe, is the single-most important person of our time. I’ve spent the last nine months in and out of his world, working on this profile of… Elon … Read More
Fear Illusions: How Your Brain Gets Hacked Every Day
I’ve spent the last three months researching fear and anxiety, and how they work on a psychological and neurobiological level, for a big Rolling Stone article. In this time of pre-election hysteria and fear-mongering in the U.S., and so many other places around the world, I thought I’d write an email sharing some of the findings here. The goal is … Read More