You Need to Immediately Take on the Project That Excites You the Most

Neil StraussAdvice

It’s been a busy week here preparing for The HAVE. I can’t begin to tell you how excited I am. One of my goals for this Year of Deep Inner Game is for The HAVE to become a regularly recurring resource for all those who need to deal with and resolve their issues. (Which is basically everyone.) I know that … Read More

How Are You Spending Your Time?

Neil StraussAdvice, YoDIG16 Comments

What is your biggest measurable goal? What is the one thing you really want to accomplish in this chapter of your life? Don’t think too hard about it. On some level, even if doubt or overthinking gets in the way of you articulating it, you already know just what it is. For me, when I was in college, it was … Read More

The Problem with Talk Therapy

Brian FishbachAdvice5 Comments

This blog post is based on a conversation we had with Neil at a recent Society intensive. As a society, we don’t focus enough on mental health. From the start of life, we see physicians, dentists, and teachers – it’s time we start taking our emotional and psychological health just as seriously. First of all, everyone has a reason to … Read More

How to Choose an Interpretation of Yourself That Best Serves You

Neil StraussAdvice

You are your interpretation. So change your interpretation of events and change yourself. But the way we talk to ourselves can be cruel and insane. If someone else talked to us the way we talk to ourselves in our own heads, we’d hate them and wouldn’t want to be near them. So why do we tell ourselves these things? Let’s … Read More

Can You Trust Your Partner To Have the Passcode to Your Phone?

Brian FishbachAdvice

This blog post is based on a conversation a few of us had with Neil the other day in a sauna. None of us took notes, but we attempted to write down every piece of Neil’s logic and advice he offered on phones, trust, and relationships. Let’s talk about trust in relationships around the phone and social media. As a … Read More

The Best Songs for Focus and Productivity

Neil StraussAdvice55 Comments

Every day, there’s something new and sinister that robs me of my focus and productivity. I’ve written about this before and offered my advice on how to stop distractions dead in their tracks. …but they keep on coming back. So one tool that I use to be laser-focused and productive while I write is playing a handful of songs and … Read More

The Cost of Failure Is…Learning

Neil StraussAdvice

The cost of failure is…learning. This is a common statement to make, and it is accurate in theory. But it is not true for everyone. There are those who suffer from a form of procrastination called “perfect preparing.” They spend all their time researching and planning, but they don’t execute because they are too scared of failing and being wrong. … Read More

How to Avoid Burnout

Richard ArthurAdvice

I’ve been experiencing burnout lately… I’ve overextended myself, and am juggling multiple writing gigs, along with a full time job here at The Society. Burnout is different from stress. It lingers. And sneaks up on you out of nowhere. Burnout is different from stress. Learn to spot it and combat it: Click To Tweet Burnout has been hurting my relationship … Read More

New Years 2018: The Year of Deep Inner Game

Neil StraussAdvice, New Years, YoDIG

new years resolution 2018

Happy New Year! I hope you’ve taken the time to set a vision, intention, resolution, or SMART goals for this coming year…. And as crucial, I hope you looked over your goals for 2017, and gave yourself a performance review: If you didn’t accomplish your previous resolutions, it’s worth asking yourself why? Especially if they were realistic goals. To make … Read More

Is Monogamy Natural?

Neil StraussAdvice38 Comments

Greetings Inner Circlers. You’ve arrived at my first video email. Let’s get into it: Is monogamy natural? Is non-monogamy natural? Have you had successful CNM (consensual non-monogamy) loving relationships? Where do you stand on sexual exclusivity vs sexual freedom? I’ve done and let me know your thoughts in the comments below. This is a complete reframe of the whole monogamy vs … Read More