I’d like to begin with a relevant thought, which is based on this tweet I posted recently: Our inner voice tends to speak to us like our parents did. For most of us, this retraumatizes rather than supports “If you want to be happier, make sure your inner voice speaks to you like the parents you needed, not necessarily the … Read More
Trust Life’s Process
This is Neil’s latest article on dealing with negative states of mind…. No matter what path you choose in life… You’re bound to encounter fearful or negative states of mind. Even after years of therapy, and successfully reparenting yourself, they will inevitably pop up. But, if you want to get rid of fear, doubt, negativity, or tough emotions… You may … Read More
Gaining Self-Awareness
This is the latest article from Neil on relationships…. It’s healthy to voice one’s thoughts and feelings, especially after going through these types of experiences. However, my end goal is always to coach people through letting go of toxic emotional attachments, understanding the deeper issues, healing, and moving forward. Because if you can’t change a person or situation, you have … Read More
Moving Mountains
This is the latest article from Neil on achieving goals…. When you look around…You can see a myth playing out in modern society… That you’re supposed to feel good all the time. You should be comfortable, happy, pain-free, and always in control. So, any experience different from that is often seen as an unwanted glitch… Something we should get rid … Read More
Strength Of Communication
This is an important reminder that has stuck with me over the years in my writing… I realized I needed to stop taking the damn words so seriously, and I finished my first novel–A dream I set for myself when I was just a little boy. I felt like I was learning from someone that understood why the writing matters. … Read More
Reset Your Aim
This is the latest article from Neil on surviving the holidays… I hope everyone was able to use the tools I recently shared to improve your experience and relationships with family. And as we all near the end of 2022…. I hope everyone will be doing some reflection, if you haven’t already, use this powerful time to assess life and … Read More
Sticky Emotional Reaction…
Here’s the next article for Neil on holidays and relationships… Despite your best intentions in clearing the slate… And all your preparation for staying mindful with your family over the holidays… Once you’re seated at the table, or socializing in the living room, you may still catch yourself regressing into the wounded child or adapted adolescent. A sticky emotional reaction … Read More
Running patterns
This is the latest article from Neil on relationships When reconnecting with family for the holidays… Few of us enter with a blank slate, to experience others as they truly are… Over decades, we’ve built up assumptions about them, and how the day or night will go. In effect, instead of relating to each other… We are relating to … Read More
Map out your patterns
This is the next article from Neil on breaking patterns and relationships. Patterns are everywhere… In Nature, in your behavior, as well as in your relationships with family. And if you tend to get stressed out or reactive around certain family members, you can be sure there’s a pattern at play. After all, where there’s reactivity, there’s a wound. To … Read More
Holiday Survival
This is Neil’s latest article on family gatherings and holidays… You might be bracing yourself… The holidays are fast approaching. And because social restrictions are relaxing, most family gatherings will be back in full swing. Though for many of us, even if we are looking forward to seeing our family, the childhood dinner table remains the epicenter of our family … Read More