How to Choose an Interpretation of Yourself That Best Serves You

Neil Strauss

You are your interpretation. So change your interpretation of events and change yourself. But the way we talk to ourselves can be cruel and insane. If someone else talked to us the way we talk to ourselves in our own heads, we’d hate them and wouldn’t want to be near them. So why do we tell ourselves these things? Let’s … Read More

Can You Trust Your Partner To Have the Passcode to Your Phone?

Brian Fishbach

This blog post is based on a conversation a few of us had with Neil the other day in a sauna. None of us took notes, but we attempted to write down every piece of Neil’s logic and advice he offered on phones, trust, and relationships. Let’s talk about trust in relationships around the phone and social media. As a … Read More

The Best Songs for Focus and Productivity

Neil Strauss3 Comments

Every day, there’s something new and sinister that robs me of my focus and productivity. I’ve written about this before and offered my advice on how to stop distractions dead in their tracks. …but they keep on coming back. So one tool that I use to be laser-focused and productive while I write is playing a handful of songs and … Read More

The Cost of Failure Is…Learning

Neil Strauss

The cost of failure is…learning. This is a common statement to make, and it is accurate in theory. But it is not true for everyone. There are those who suffer from a form of procrastination called “perfect preparing.” They spend all their time researching and planning, but they don’t execute because they are too scared of failing and being wrong. … Read More

How to Avoid Burnout

Richard Arthur

I’ve been experiencing burnout lately… I’ve overextended myself, and am juggling multiple writing gigs, along with a full time job here at The Society. Burnout is different from stress. It lingers. And sneaks up on you out of nowhere. Burnout is different from stress. Learn to spot it and combat it: Click To Tweet Burnout has been hurting my relationship … Read More

New Years 2018: The Year of Deep Inner Game

Neil Strauss

new years resolution 2018

Happy New Year! I hope you’ve taken the time to set a vision, intention, resolution, or SMART goals for this coming year…. And as crucial, I hope you looked over your goals for 2017, and gave yourself a performance review: If you didn’t accomplish your previous resolutions, it’s worth asking yourself why? Especially if they were realistic goals. To make … Read More

Is Monogamy Natural?

Neil Strauss23 Comments

Greetings Inner Circlers. You’ve arrived at my first video email. Let’s get into it: Is monogamy natural? Is non-monogamy natural? Have you had successful CNM (consensual non-monogamy) loving relationships? Where do you stand on sexual exclusivity vs sexual freedom? I’ve done and let me know your thoughts in the comments below. This is a complete reframe of the whole monogamy vs … Read More

How to Take Control of Your Subconscious Mind

Richard Arthur

Today, you’re going to discover one of (if not the) most profound realizations I’ve had in my life—and almost all of it occurs on a subconscious level. To get the most out of this new insight, you need to first understand the “Pareto Principle.” The Pareto Principle: An Italian economist named Vilfredo Pareto stumbled onto this idea in the early … Read More

24 Hours without Technology and Food

Richard Arthur

When was the last time you turned off your phone, computer, and TV for an entire day? And when was the last time you went 24 hours without eating?  If the answer is “I don’t know” or “never,” you need to consider a day of discipline like this… Recently, I went on a 24-hour fast – abstaining from all technology, … Read More

How to Use Neuro-Linguistic Programming To Take Risks

Richard Arthur

We get a lot of questions about neuro-linguistic programming (NLP). It has been described as a “subconscious brain science.”  To understand NLP more, imagine a door: On one side of this door, is everything we see and know — the world in our eyes. On the “other side” is everything we can’t see, and don’t know: Uncertainty Unsolved problems Unexpressed … Read More