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Help A Sister Out: How Do I Let Him Know How I Feel?

Hi Neil, I’ve been following the stories on your website and, even knowing that each individual and each situation is unique, fuck it, I need help. I found something worst than the friend zone: the brother/sister zone. A few months ago I met one my best friends, let’s call him Fred. We were 25,...

Help A Brother Out: Is Rejection Normal For A PUA

Dear Neil, One of your last “Help A Brother Out” posts inspired me to write to you. It’s a bit similar but at the same time different. I’m 31. I have been a part of the community for about 5 years, on and off, and have had some success. But now after coming out of a relationship, I find myself back...

Think Like A Lady, Fuck Like A Man – Part 2

Today’s guest bloggers, Lina Lecaro and Susan Hyatt, give us a fascinating look at the female response to male desires. Lina is a Los Angeles based journalist whose work has been featured in LA Weekly. Susan is the singer/songwriter of the rock bands Stimulator and Sirens of Soho. Catch a glimpse of...

There’s No Such Thing As Impossible

This is an old story, but I thought it could give you all out there some inspiration. I was in a city park with some guys, and they said that meeting girls in this jogging area was impossible. And as soon as I hear the word impossible, I always think, “Has it been done before?” If it has, then...

“Hahaha lol bye” – The Communication Conclusion

Thanks for all the great feedback on the previous non-violent communication posts. It is now time for the conclusion of our NVC series–and for your next 30-Day Challenge. You might be saying to yourself, “All this non-violent communication talk is well and good in theory, but does it actually...

How Not To Approach

Something that I think is important to share with you is how key subtlety is to a successful approach. When you’re out doing your field missions, it’s important not to be seen thinking — or even to actually think — before approaching. In other words, the person you’re...

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