Over the years, we’ve been on quite a journey together. Whether it’s through books, emails, or various programs, we’ve evolved in our own ways, shaped by our interests and resources. When I started coaching, my focus was on seminars. The idea was simple: gather everyone in a room for a weekend, share my knowledge, and watch lives improve. Sometimes it … Read More
Our Inner Voice
I’d like to begin with a relevant thought, which is based on this tweet I posted recently: Our inner voice tends to speak to us like our parents did. For most of us, this retraumatizes rather than supports “If you want to be happier, make sure your inner voice speaks to you like the parents you needed, not necessarily the … Read More
Gaining Self-Awareness
This is the latest article from Neil on relationships…. It’s healthy to voice one’s thoughts and feelings, especially after going through these types of experiences. However, my end goal is always to coach people through letting go of toxic emotional attachments, understanding the deeper issues, healing, and moving forward. Because if you can’t change a person or situation, you have … Read More
Strength Of Communication
This is an important reminder that has stuck with me over the years in my writing… I realized I needed to stop taking the damn words so seriously, and I finished my first novel–A dream I set for myself when I was just a little boy. I felt like I was learning from someone that understood why the writing matters. … Read More
Reset Your Aim
This is the latest article from Neil on surviving the holidays… I hope everyone was able to use the tools I recently shared to improve your experience and relationships with family. And as we all near the end of 2022…. I hope everyone will be doing some reflection, if you haven’t already, use this powerful time to assess life and … Read More
Sticky Emotional Reaction…
Here’s the next article for Neil on holidays and relationships… Despite your best intentions in clearing the slate… And all your preparation for staying mindful with your family over the holidays… Once you’re seated at the table, or socializing in the living room, you may still catch yourself regressing into the wounded child or adapted adolescent. A sticky emotional reaction … Read More
Running patterns
This is the latest article from Neil on relationships When reconnecting with family for the holidays… Few of us enter with a blank slate, to experience others as they truly are… Over decades, we’ve built up assumptions about them, and how the day or night will go. In effect, instead of relating to each other… We are relating to … Read More
The Self Sabotage Cycle
Here’s the latest article from Neil on dealing with self sabotage A student of mine recently confessed to being stuck in a cycle of self-sabotage. They had exciting, clearly defined goals for the month. But after taking a few small steps, they’d get distracted and prevent themselves from going any further… Which is a place I think we’ve all been.Whenever someone … Read More
Writer’s block doesn’t exist…
I want to share a takeaway from one of the experiential exercises I designed… Which delivers an important, mind-altering lesson. Not only does it prove writer’s block doesn’t exist… It pulls you into the empty space where great creativity happens. Let me explain… One of the myths in creative work is that you need to begin with some extraordinary idea, or experience… And … Read More
Handle Your Hot Buttons
I wanted to add a thought expanding on a previous topic I discussed rest and stress… Because managing that balance has an impact far more than it may seem. In addition to impacting your health and immunity, stress lowers your emotional and psychological capacity. Your capacity to perform well, to think clearly, and to handle pressure, conflict, and your hot buttons. When … Read More